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One doctor, as he talked to me, made a broad, swiping hand gesture that suggested that a lot of erasing was in order. Kibum translated: �He thinks you should get Botox around your eyes and forehead, and reposition the fat under your eyes.�
Me: Does he think I should put filler in my cheeks?
Kibum: He doesn�t recommend filler, because it�s gone in eight months and you�d need a shitload of it.
Kibum and I didn�t have the nerve to request that we be turned into a matching pair, but it wouldn�t have been much of a stretch. Every doctor I interviewed said that he had patients who�d brought in photographs of celebrities, asking to be remade in their likenesses; or, for instance, with Kim Tae-hee�s nose and Lee Min-jung�s eyes. One doctor told me that he had a patient who showed him a cartoon that she wanted to resemble. (He said no.) Also, an increasing number of women are having procedures at the same time as their daughters, arranging for matching operations so that the daughters� looks are attributed to nature rather than to suture.
�Surgery tourists� from abroad make up about a third of the business in South Korea, and, of those, most come from China. One reason is that, throughout Asia, the �Korean wave� of pop culture (called hallyu ) shapes not only what music you should listen to but what you should look like while listening to it. Cosmetic transformations can be so radical that some of the hospitals offer certificates of identity to foreign patients, who might need help convincing immigration officers that they�re not in the Witness Protection Program.
We all want to look our best, but not since seventh grade had I been in the company of people for whom appearance mattered so much. In search of a clearer understanding of why South Koreans are such lookists, I stopped by the book-cluttered office of Eunkook Suh, a psychology professor at Yonsei University, in Seoul. �One factor is that, in contrast to Western cultures, the external aspects of self (your social status, clothes, gestures, and appearance) versus the inner aspects (thoughts and feelings) matter more here,� he explained. Suh described an experiment he did in which he gave students, both at Yonsei University and at the University of California at Irvine (where he once taught) a photograph and a written description of the same person. Which format, he asked the students, gives you a better understanding of this person? The Koreans chose the photograph, and the Americans chose the description. Suh, like others, partially attributes the Korean mind-set to Confucianism, which teaches that behavior toward others is all-important. He elaborated, �In Korea, we don�t care what you think about yourself. Other people�s evaluations of you matter more.�
Suh went on to explain that the two societies also have different ideas about personal change: �In Asian societies like Korea, a lot of people hold an incremental theory versus an entity theory about a person�s potential.� If you subscribe to the latter, as Suh claims we do in the United States, you believe that a person�s essence is fixed and that there is only a limited potential for change. �If your American ten-year-old is a born musician and not a soccer player, you�re not going to force her to play soccer,� Suh said. �In Korea, they think that if you put in effort you�re going to improve, so you�d force your kid to play soccer.� So, in Korea, not only can you grow up to be David Beckham; you can�with a lot of work�grow up to look like David Beckham, too.
This is not a country that gives up. Surely one of the most bullied nations on earth, Korea, some historians believe, has been invaded more than four hundred times through the years, without once being the aggressor, if you don�t count the Vietnam War. After the Korean War, the country�s G.D.P. per capita ($64) was less than that of Somalia, and its citizens lived under an oppressive regime. Today, South Korea has the fourteenth-highest G.D.P. in the world. Is it really surprising, then, that a country that had the resilience to make itself over so thoroughly is also the capital of cosmetic about-faces?
The national fixation on plastic surgery began in the aftermath of the Korean War, triggered by the offer made by the American occupational forces to provide free reconstructive surgery to maimed war victims. Particular credit or blame�you choose�goes to David Ralph Millard, the chief plastic surgeon for the U.S. Marine Corps, who, in response to requests from Korean citizens wishing to change their Asian eyes to Occidental ones, perfected the blepharoplasty. As Millard wrote in a 1955 monograph, the Asian eye�s �absence of the palpebral fold produces a passive expression which seems to epitomize the stoical and unemotional manner of the Oriental.� The procedure was a hit, and caught on fast, especially with Korean prostitutes, who wanted to attract American G.I.s. �It was indeed a plastic surgeon�s paradise,� Millard wrote.
There is a word you hear a lot in Korea: woori . It means �we� or �us� or �we-ness,� but, as explained by Kihyoung Choi in his book �A Pedagogy of Spiraling,� it blurs into a collective �I.� Choi writes, �When one refers to one�s spouse, one does not say �my husband� or �my wife� but �our husband� or �our wife.� � (The divorce rate in Korea has tripled in the last two decades. * ) �It is very important to be part of the woori group, to be part of your coalition or clique,� Eugene Yun, a private-equity fund manager, told me. �This is the antithesis of individualism. If we go to a restaurant in a group, we�ll all order the same thing. If we go into a shop, we�ll often ask, �What is the most popular item?,� and just purchase that. The feeling is, if you can look better, you should. Not to do so would be complacent and lazy and reflect badly on your group.� He went on, �It�s not that you�re trying to stand out and look good. It�s that you�re trying not to look bad.� He continued, �This is a very competitive society. In the old days, if your neighbor bought a new TV or new car you would need to buy a new TV or car. Now we all have these basic things, so the competition has moved up to comparing one�s looks, health, and spiritual things as well.�
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